• It’s Tough To Be A Man

    by  • August 9, 2011 • Guest Blogger, Love, Relations • 9 Comments

    Historically, men have been known to act as muzzles that have prevented women’s liberation and empowerment from happening in full swing. Men have also been adduced as self-proclaimed czars who have taken away women’s privilege as their appanage.

    In doing so, men have often been read and remarked as mischievous, perverse, and wicked in their willful means. But not all men are same just as all women are different. Reading a man’s motives may sometimes appear tough while at other times his feelings may be as playful as a tot who sprouts in love.

    For many of us women, the men in our life have been our life’s axis and we have revolved around them in different garbs. They have been the charmers’ on a date night, or have been our lovers, partners, and confidants. They have also been our greatest pals who have taken a charade of impositions on themselves to save us from the grind.

    But at other times they have also been our grave abusers.

    In both ‘either/or’ situations of life, men have shown their zing triggered by their testosterone levels. As our loved ones with a midas touch, they have soaked away our troubles and pain in their steadfastness. At other times, however, they have left us stranded and harrowing for help on life’s empty shores.

    But most of the time they have been just men, adamant or ardent who love to pursue their true blue nature in anything they embrace with their masculine verve.

    Yes, they are men, a human species who are judged on their virility and gauged for the many roles they play in our lives as fathers, brothers, husbands, or sons.

    Right at birth their social conditioning is different than us women. They are gifted with more freedom and a greater degree of choice. They are taught to be courageous and impudent with occasional reliance on expressing their inner emotions. Perhaps it is one reason that men don’t cry much and they also don’t hug always, but when they do they suffice it with sheer wholeness.

    Their strength and warmth is also their brute force that keeps us women feeling shielded against the unsought swords, lances, and arrows. Not only this, but man’s cognition and their wisdom is the kingdom of their competence and capability that fills up all the shallow holes of our life though sometimes men can go berserk too. This is when they get tangled up in the fine threads of life, such as when draggled in an extra-marital affair, or when dogged by their dear mother if they support their better half, or when they get caught up between a pertinacious wife and a nagging and provoking daughter.

    Well those are some of the terrible times when our men are clasped in two worlds!

    For no rhyme or reason, these clasped men are split apart like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle until they use discretion and gumption to fit all the pieces together to make a clear picture.

    It’s the man’s foresight, maturity, and emotional stability that we women can always count on. When our beloved men use these gifted qualities in real life situations, they score over other men who don’t. Also, it is our men’s love beneath their logic and not their indiscreet acts that inspires us to look up to them.

    So let’s stand up in ovation for the many men in our lives who cheer us as our fathers, brothers, husbands, and sons. These men do and can make a difference in a woman’s life.

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    Barkha Dhar is a Management Professional with prior experience in Corporate Training and Coaching. She has conducted behavioral workshops in Team Building, Leadership Dynamics and Emotional Intelligence at work. Her passion is to share her thoughts and emotions through writing on Social and Management issues. She aspires to integrate Social Change with Organizational Change as a prime leadership intervention in the 21st century. Her articles are based on issues from the daily life which she believes are a guide to corporate life. She has interests ranging from traveling and food to diversity in community interaction as a facet of cultural integration. Barkha is a wife and a mother. Most of all, she is an individual who believes in contributing back to the society in possibilities and opportunities.


    9 Responses to It’s Tough To Be A Man

    1. He Said
      August 9, 2011 at 9:50 pm

      Thank you Barkha,

      Only a woman can give us men that many dimensions in such an elegant way 🙂

    2. August 9, 2011 at 10:31 pm

      Barkha, you are always an inspiration and in this article you also show critical understanding of the multi-faceted men in our lives. What a lovely reminder that they can and do make positive differences to the women in their lives.

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    6. August 10, 2011 at 7:29 pm

      Thank you He Said. I am glad that I have been able to portray the many accomplishments of men in a refined manner. It was great to share the way I feel about men in general.
      Thanks for sharing.
      Barkha Dhar

    7. August 10, 2011 at 7:30 pm

      Thank you Cher for your kind encouragement. Glad to receive your affirmation to the fact that men have the ability to impact a women’s life. Their versatile nature and ingenuity is a natural ability that can sway us women.

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    9. May 22, 2012 at 3:44 am

      I like this part when you said ..”When our beloved men use these gifted qualities in real life situations, they score over other men who don’t.” Thanks for sharing your ideas. It’s such a cool thing to know that there are still lots of guys whom I know will be a good father someday. Coz you know,there are only few ones these days.

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