• Taken For Granted?

    by  • December 18, 2013 • Daily Matters, Life • 0 Comments

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    One of the worst things that can happen to you!

    – Your friend asks you for help: You oblige her /him once, twice, thrice and before you know it…you are automatically a in any future projects!
    – You excel at work: You are productive, highly motivated and outperforming everybody, you will not notice it as your work load starts to pile up and suddenly ….you are overwhelmed by tasks…
    You got !…

    How to know when you are being taken for granted?

    • You always are there to offer your help, yet when you were the one in need everyone you called up was busy.
    • Your friends won’t return any favor. Ever.
    • You listen to people’s problems but there is nobody to listen to yours.
    • Your efforts don’t get even a simple thanks.
    • No matter how much you contribute people always want you to do more. Extra pay? Some appreciation? You are funny, really!
    • You feel not cared enough for, not loved enough, ignored, neglected.
    • People assume you will always be there and each time you are not is taken as a .
    • You notice that people forget to tell you .
    • People don’t care what you do unless they need you to do something for them.

    You said YES to more than 3 points in the list? That’s a . Maybe you should think about making yourself noticed and listened to.

    What you can do about being taken for granted?

    Do not panic and do not make a

    It might all have a very . If you out and get mad for no reason it will make things only worse.

    Talk about it
    Don’t hold it in. But don’t sound accusing or blaming. Just talk. The begin to die when we stop talking about things that matter.

    Stop being nice all the time

    You are human. You have emotions. You can get mad, you can be sad, you can be upset. If people know how you feel they won’t take it for granted.

    Learn to say ‘no’
    As hard as it seems it is still possible. Give it a try. Start with smaller things. People will take you for granted only as long as you let them. Saying ‘no’ is the first step on the road of not letting them do it.

    Do not compromise with your self-respect
    Ever. You are better than this.

    Question your motives
    Don’t expect praise and appreciation. You do things for yourself because you like helping people out, not because you want them to help you later. Or don’t you?

     Treat people as you want to be treated
    Old cliché, maybe, but it does work. Before blaming someone for taking you for granted, see if you do it the same way.

    Stand your ground and draw boundaries
    You are a good person. You are a good friend. You know that. They know that. Now it’s time to be strong for yourself.

    When you say ‘no’ to someone the world won’t turn upside down. It will be at the exact same place. You should realize that whatever is meant to happen will happen. Good or bad. You can’t run around giving people second and third chances. You can’t let them take advantage of you. You can’t be there for them always even when they let you down all the time. Relationships are always worth fighting for but sometimes you can’t be the only one fighting.
    Sometimes, people need to fight for you.

    © 2013, M Z. All rights reserved.


    Blogger, writer, dappling in poetry and freelancing in Web and Graphic Design.


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